No problem, I understand where you're coming from. To answer your question - yes, I would do the same in Germany or any other western country, because sometimes it's hard to get to the right protein-carbs-fat ratio as a vegan and you have to rely on people willing to help out, especially when you don't have a kitchen. Europe is very strictly regulated in terms of foods in restaurants so they might say no because of the risks involved, but not because they are more chill about loosing customers, I don't think so. I truly believe to have given the owners a very easy opportunity to say no, making sure they know I'm absolutely ok with them refusing and I am still going to stay and eat at their place without the tofu. I also left the tip in the amount of another rice and curry dish to make sure it's worth the extra effort for them. I tried to show how much I appreciate their effort and made sure to leave a good review to help their business. Based on what they said and how they acted, I think both parties were very happy with the deal in the end. So I do believe that the same action can be done in very different ways and therefore either be a happy thing for everyone involved or a forced and unpleasant thing, like you've described. Hopefully, I'm not mistaken and this one did make them happy just as it did make me happy. And yes, I went there at least 6 times since then, so they did manage to retain a happy customer :)