I’m a Libra so it’s in my my nature to attempt to keep things around me calm and zen-like. I don’t like confrontations or heated discussions. I prefer to not make waves or upset people. For most of my life I have avoided saying things (out loud) to people that may alter their opinion of me in a negative way. When I first became vegan these character traits played heavily into how I communicated my new way of eating.
At first, I didn’t want my decision to define who I was as person. I didn’t want to be known as “Kylie the Vegan”. It was just a diet choice so why should it be such a big deal? When I went to restaurants I avoided using the term “vegan” when asking questions about certain menu items. I was afraid of being annoying to the wait staff and whatever company I was with at the time. My husband would make a point of telling them “she’s vegan” in a half mocking/half supportive way. It’s not that I was ashamed, I was just too concerned with others thinking “crap, not another annoying vegan” – because I’m very aware of the stereotype that surrounds us.
I tried not to lecture my friends and family about the atrocities of the meat and dairy industries. I didn’t attempt to make them feel guilty about what they were putting into their mouths. I answered their questions if asked, but tried to remain nonchalant about it all. For some reason I just felt like I had to stay as neutral a possible on the subject, that I would somehow isolate myself from my loved ones by having strong convictions. Believe me, it’s not a healthy way to live. Keeping your thoughts bottled inside can be toxic to your soul.
A few months ago though, this all started to change. The more articles and books I read and the more like-minded people I started to meet helped morph my simple “diet choice” into a lifestyle choice. It was no longer about merely what I chose not to eat, but more about making kinder choices in all aspects of my daily life. I no longer buy leather or support companies that test on animals. I try to be conscious of all my actions and how they may affect other living creatures.
Something this significant should not be hidden away like a dirty secret. I began to feel proud of who I was becoming and the compassionate way I decided to live my life. I no longer shy away from defining myself as a vegan because it’s who I am. I fully embrace all that being a vegan means and it has already changed my life in tremendous ways. I’m happier, I’m healthier and I’m more open minded to what the Earth has to offer.
I don’t plan on becoming a self-righteous prosthelytizer, but I do have a voice and it should be heard. All I can hope is that seeing me inspires others to do their own research and make positive changes for themselves, because it truly is worth it.
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NIBsmf (1 comments)
January 19, 2012 at 12:34 pmI can SO relate to this! Maybe it’s because I’m a libra, too. : P I know what you mean that you don’t want to come off as self-righteous or proselytizing, but how can we not speak up for the injustices and cruelty that we witness in this world?! And for that mere fact of speaking up instead of being complacent and compiant like the majority of our population, we are seen as self-righteous or proselytizing. I had a conversation earlier today with someone who is vegetarian who said to me about my anger towards meat eaters “Not to compare us to religious fanatics, but think of how annoyed we get when people preach to us about religion. We have to respect peoples’ personal choice.” I said “I’m totally for people doing what they like and believing what they like as long as it doesn’t impose on others, and meat eating imposes murder and torture on others” (both animals and people, e.g. the environmental issues that comes with factory farming). And as someone once said about the personal choice idea: “Personal choice is what color you choose to paint your bedroom”, meat eating is not the same. Anyway, sorry to ramble. Bottom line is that I can relate to what you’ve said and am glad you (and myself over time!) have been able to stop shying away from being outspoken about this. : )
sovaydesitges (1 comments)
January 19, 2012 at 12:39 pmyou’re vegan, and look how BEAUTIFUL you are. that speaks volumes for your “personal choice” ie lifestyle. ~with you.
Kylie Bennett (1 comments)
January 19, 2012 at 12:41 pmThank you both for the kind words! It’s an amazing journey to be on and the beautiful, caring people I meet along the way make it even more wonderful 🙂
orionis23 (1 comments)
January 19, 2012 at 3:49 pmYay Kylie! Great blog post… I hope you do more of them!
pmd53 (1 comments)
January 22, 2012 at 7:27 amSO cool, Kylie! You are awesome! (inside and out) 🙂
Gary Scoggins (2 comments)
January 25, 2012 at 10:43 amNice.